We all know the drill. You tell yourself that you’re going to eat healthier and workout more often, but then weeks pass by and nothing happens.

Yay for good intentions! In my experience as a nutrition coach I’ve learned that this result is usually due to some underlying reason why it’s difficult for these people to change their routine.

When I ask why they aren’t going to the gym, or what their nutrition plan looks like, it turns out that they didn’t have a good reason for not exercising or eating all of the processed shit they were eating. The food just tasted really good and it was easy enough to convince themselves that working out wasn’t a priority. They had no reason not to.

These people know that they aren’t eating as healthily as they’d like to and that they aren’t exercising enough, but for some reason it doesn’t seem all that important. As weird as this might sound, their behavior isn’t about the food or exercise. It’s actually emotional and psychological.

You see, there are always reasons for everything, but sometimes they aren’t obvious. There is a reason why it’s difficult to go to the gym consistently or to cook healthy food that you actually enjoy eating. This is an issue that goes much deeper than just health or weight loss .

Let’s talk about some common reasons why people have difficulties with changing their habits and how to overcome them.

#1: You’re not feeling confident

If you lack confidence, then it’s difficult to believe that you are able to do the things that you say you will do. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me that they wanted to go to the gym, but didn’t feel confident enough about their body to do so, I would be a millionaire. When you don’t feel confident you can’t expect yourself to put in 100% at the gym or make healthy food choices.

A lack of confidence is not about weight loss or looking better – it’s about feeling empowered to go out into the world and achieve your goals. When you feel confident, then you’ll be able to convince yourself that it is within your power to get what you want.

So how do you get confident? It’s simple really; act confident before you actually believe it. No matter how ridiculous this might seem, acting confident (even if it feels forced) can increase your self-esteem. It’s not about tricking people – it’s about tricking yourself.

One of the best ways to do this is by speaking with authority about things that you are knowledgeable about. Instead of saying “I don’t know”, say “I do know”. For example, if I ask how your day was, instead of replying with , “I don’t know” or even “good”, ask me how my day was instead. Saying it with authority will make you feel more confident and increase your self-esteem.

Now I’m not telling you to act like a dick who doesn’t respect others. You can ask questions about things that you are genuinely curious about, but don’t be afraid to take up the conversation with your own voice and opinions. Joining in on someone elses conversation is an easy way to convince yourself to act confident.